Love is a Verb

I came across the following quote by Stephen Covey, author of The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People/Powerful Lessons in Personal change in Anodea Judith’s wonderful book, Eastern Body Western Mind.

Love is a verb. Love the feeling is the fruit of love the verb or our loving actions. So love her. Sacrifice. Listen to her. Empathize. Appreciate. Affirm her. So inspired was I by these words, that I have been infiltrating my classes with this teaching over the last few days! Stephen Covey was citing a conversation that he had had with one of his male patients who had come to him for advice. The man claimed that he no longer loved his wife, and that his wife no longer loved him.

Most of us understand the word love as a noun.....a feeling. An emotion.
Yet, many philosophers have maintained that emotion is the end result of asensation perceived by the senses (hearing, seeing, smelling, tasting or feeling) or by something imagined (futuristic thinking), or remembered (being in the past.)

Anger, for example, may be provoked by hearing an insult, fear by an
imagined future evil, sorrow by the memory of a past suffering. So then, an emotion is awakened by sensation, yet is something quite different from sensation ... It is a feeling.....a physiological response.

Further, an emotion inclines us toward an object or moves us away from it.

Aaah, I am beginning to see how Stephen Covey’s advice makes perfect sense! If we send and show love (action), we engender feelings (emotions) of love not only in the receiver, but also in ourselves!

Every emotion has a physical component. Anger is accompanied by tightness in the chest, by the tensing of the muscles, and by a clenched jaw; fear causes the heart to beat rapidly, the hands to sweat, the face to burn, the knees to knock, and sometimes the fingers to tingle. Many emotions have characteristic facial expressions: when embarrassed, we blush; when fearful, we pale. Changes in respiration, heartbeat, temperature, or other bodily states always accompany the various emotions. These physiological changes are not mere aftereffects but constitute the physical component of the emotion. When we feel love, our heart rate slows, our muscles relax, we may blush, smile.

Much has been written about the Two Basic Emotions.....Fear and Love.
Dr. Denise Lamothe puts it like this. “Think of it this way, whenever you
make a choice that leaves you feeling badly about yourself, physically
depleted, anxious, scared, guilty or angry you have acted out of fear. You
have momentarily slipped off your path to perfect health and joy. You are
having an experience of separation from your spirit. This is a painful, lonely and frequent experience of anyone who behaves compulsively. It is an experience of disconnection.

Whenever we make a choice from a place of love, we experience an entirely different assortment of feelings that are manifestations of this love joy, peace, contentment, pride and love itself. It is then that we know deep inside that we have stepped back onto our path and that we are progressing in our development. Self-loving choices are spiritually enhancing and the more we make, the better we feel and the less compulsive, self-harming choices we will make.

Finally, Lo and behold..... I Googled “love is a verb” and it appears as if
it is a song! Written and sung by John Mayer. It goes like this:

Love Is A Verb
Love is a verb
It ain't a thing
It's not something you own
It's not something you scream (scream?!)
When you show me love
I don't need your words
Yeah love ain't a thing
Love is a verb
Love ain't a thing
Love is a verb
Love ain't a crutch
It ain't an excuse
No you can't get through love
On just a pile of IOUS
Love ain't a drug
Despite what you've heard
Yeah love ain't a thing
Love is a verb
Love ain't a thing
Love is a verb
So you gotta show, show, show me
Show, show, show me
Show, show, show me
That love is a verb
Yeah you gotta show, show, show me
Show, show, show me
Show, show, show me
That love is a verb
Love ain't a thing
Love is a verb

Amazingly, Yogis, you can even have “Love Is A Verb” as a ringtone on your cell! You might want to listen to the song first, though!
http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/johnmayer/loveisaverb.html

So, sending you All The LOVE Today!